5 Ways to Avoid People Who Make you Unhappy
Do you find yourself feeling down when you talk to certain people? Do they make you unhappy with the things they say to you? Then here are some ways in which you can avoid them and unnecessary misery.
1. Ignore them
A good way to avoid someone who makes you unhappy is to simply ignore them. If the person attends class with you or turns up at the coffee shop you are at and you are by yourself, the best strategy is to turn a blind eye and a deaf ear. Play with your phone, bury your nose in a newspaper or a book, or sketch in your notebook. By diverting your attention you are willfully demonstrating your refusal to engage with the person. While they might still talk ‘at’ you, there is also the possibility that they will get the message and leave you alone.
2. Make an excuse to leave
If you feel someone is making you unhappy with the things they say to you or the things they do, then find an excuse to walk away. It doesn’t have to be a genuine or legitimate reason as long as you get the point across that you need to leave. Pretend you have got an urgent message or forgotten to meet up with someone else, even look at your watch if need be. You don’t have to stick around someone who doesn’t make you feel good.
3. Refuse to meet them
If you know being around them is hell, then simply avoid them. You can do this by directly refusing to engage with them. This can mean turning down invitations for coffee, lunch or even attending a party they are hosting. By deciding you do not want to be anywhere with them, you can avoid the pain they might cause you.
4. Avoid all forms of contact
Many of you might have tried this tactic with dates that didn’t work out or people who got on your nerves. The same strategy can be used with people who make you feel miserable. Avoid running into them online and in person. You can even choose to ignore their calls or messages. If the need arises, you can block their number or block them from contacting you via e-mail and social networking forums.
5. Seek help from the positive people in your life
Sometimes refusing to meet the person who is the cause of your unhappiness or trying your best to avoid them doesn’t always work. They may show up at your workplace, be invited to the same gathering you are going to or may know someone you know and inevitably turn up at places you go frequently. In such a scenario, seek the help of positive friends who can either intercept the person or prevent the person from interacting with you. By forming a protective circle and showering you with positivity, your friends can also make you feel good about yourself.