4 Tips to Stay Assertive and Not Aggressive

4 Tips to Stay Assertive and Not Aggressive

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It’s very easy to lose your cool and storm out but it’s important to understand that wrong context, time and person can only do a lot of damage. And anger does more harm than any good. If you want to get things done your way or make the other person understand your point of view, you need to be assertive. Here are 4 tips to stay assertive and not aggressive.

1. Don’t raise your voice

Anger and aggression never help as no one in the world will accept such behavior; it only pushes everyone away. If you feel something is wrong or you don’t like something, there is a way to express it. Put your point forth with confidence, don’t lose your calm. If you know you are right then you should have the confidence and courage to shut the other person’s mouth without raising your voice.

2. Learn the language of being willful and assertive

Play with words, learn to be witty. People get angry and lose it and end up getting in trouble. If you are facing a person who is very angry and only knows to fight and if you too do the same thing it won’t lead anywhere. Instead, stay calm and let that person get it out of his system, and eventually he will realize and keep quiet and even get irritated because you are not reacting at all. That’s when you can say whatever you want to and he will listen.

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3. Count backwards up to 50

There are logical and rational ways of dealing with your emotions. Especially at work, if you sound too aggressive, people will only focus on your tone and will not listen to what you are saying. The moment you feel you are getting angry, count up to 10 or 50 in your head, take a deep breath and state what you have to say with a firm voice and do not flinch.

4. Put forth your thoughts in points

When you feel angry, you tend to ramble on; rather than that come to the point, don’t beat around the bush, and say that, “I think this is why this has to be done,’ and politely state the reasons why you think so, in points one by one. The person will know that you mean business.