5 Emotions After Breakup Which You May Face

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The feelings that you may face after a breakup can take you on an emotional rollercoaster that you would never have imagined. “Yes, dealing with a breakup is difficult because it is an emotional battle with your heart, mind, body and soul”, said Jason, 25, a university student who recently broke up with his high school sweetheart because they could not sustain a long distance relationship. Lynn, 30, who had been in a 2-year relationship before she finally got married also gave her inputs as we discussed the emotions that one may face after a breakup.

1. Anger

“Without a doubt, anger is one of the worst emotions that you may face after a breakup. The worst part is that you may be unable to pinpoint a finger if someone asked you what you are actually angry at”, mentioned a puzzled Jason. He had no reason to be angry on his ex because she did not do anything that brought their relationship to end. “It just did not work out. Who should I be angry on? Myself? The relationship? My friends? I really don’t know. But what I do know is that I felt a lot of anger vent up inside me at that time”, confessed Jason.

2. Hatred

“I got my first job as an office assistant when I was 22. I dated a coworker only to find out 6 months later that he was dating two other women in the same office”, said a fuming Lynn. She couldn’t believe how strong the emotion of hatred actually is, until she actually quit her job only because she could not stand being around that man. “Hatred as an emotion that you may face after a breakup is hard to control. You better be prepared because it is going to take a lot of guts to ignore this wild and burning emotion”, she warned.

3. Sadness

Lynn and Jason both agree that feeling sad is virtually inevitable after a breakup. “Sadness is an emotion that you will face after a breakup because feeling sad is a part and parcel of losing someone special in your life”, said Jason. He believes that only time can heal this emotional wound because there is nothing much that you can do to deal with this emotion except wait it out for someone new in your life.

4. Joy

We were confused when Lynn mentioned joy as one of the emotions that you may face after a breakup. She clarified, “Since I was cheated on in my first relationship, I was happy and joyous that I found out about my cheating partner only 6 months after being in that relationship. I was thankful and happy that I did not suffer this terrible heart break after investing 2-3 years into that relationship”. As it happened in Lynn’s case, you may experience joy as an emotion after a breakup if you have got rid of a person who was that baggage or a bad influence on your life. Good riddance, we say!

5. Confusion

More of a state of mind, confusion is definitely one of the most common emotions that many of us face after a breakup. Both Lynn and Jason mentioned how confusion suddenly took over their lives in a way they had never seen before. “Right from the very minute I woke up after the day of my breakup, I was confused. I didn’t know what to do, didn’t know how to feel and didn’t know whom to talk to. It’s as if I was induced into a state of mass confusion”, exclaimed Jason. So if you are feeling confused or lost after your breakup, relax, it is one of the common emotions that you may face after a breakup.