5 Facts about a ‘Friends with Benefits’ Relationship

Mere friendship is no longer enough. These days, there are plenty of relationships which include more than just being friends. Whether people are getting lonelier or more liberal is another debate altogether, but one cannot deny the existence of “friends with benefits” relationships in our society today. But what does it really hold in stock for those involved in a relationship of that kind? There ought to be a reality check for those already in, or looking forward to having such a relationship. Here are the top 6 facts about a “friends with benefits” relationship:

1. There is no certainty of commitment

In a relationship of this kind, commitment is a strict no-no. None should expect commitment because the purpose of such a relationship is “no strings attached.” But over time, one of the parties involved, could begin to have genuine feelings and begin to expect the same in return. But a similar thing happening on both sides is mostly a rarity.

2. Monogamy cannot be expected

One cannot expect that the partner would be ‘loyal’ because the word ‘loyal’ does not exist in such a relationship. Remember that the two of them are only friends and nothing more. They only have benefits and that is about it–nothing more. So expecting that a partner in such a relationship would not have other similar buddies or friends is being naive.

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3. If there is love, it is not unconditional

Love might exist in a relationship of this kind, but then it is not true love and definitely not the unconditional one. If both love each other, it is because of what they are getting in return–whatever it is! There is always some expectation which needs to be satiated on both sides to keep a relationship of this kind going.

4. Feelings are likely to get hurt

Having feelings is fine. But then they are likely to get hurt. Since both parties are not committed to each other and are not bound by any legal obligation, they are free to do anything as far as relationships are concerned. So if one of the pair decides to spend time with a new friend, the other should not be vulnerable enough to get hurt.

5. Expectations are unlikely to be met

If there are expectations from either side, they are least likely to be met. The reason is obvious–the basic ground of such a relationship is “no strings attached.”

6. Falling in love could lead to affliction

During the course of the relationship, falling in love is likely to occur sometimes. But unless it is mutual, the one with genuine feelings would have to face non-reciprocation and eventual rejection which could be very painful and cause distress.